Returning Insult For Insult
Posted May 3, 2012
on:How did Jesus do it? Jesus was criticized and insulted but never returned insult for insult. The witness of Jesus tells us to return evil with good. Be slow to anger. Turn the other cheek.
“A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.” (Proverbs 12:16)
Where do we draw the line of being insulted by another person and turning the other cheek? When do we stand up for ourselves? How many times can we really just turn the other cheek before saying something in our defense?
There is a person in my life that always seems to “get a jab at me” every time we have a conversation. This is a person that I have hurt from my past actions. This person has also hurt me. I have truly forgiven them. I really have. I have asked forgiveness for my sharpness and overreaction. I’m ready to let it go. I AM capable of forgiveness. I believe God has blessed me with incredible patience and the ability to forgive. In my past, I had an ex-boyfriend who grabbed me by my hair, put a gun to my head & shoved me down into an execution type stature. I even forgave him (and got a permanent restraining order).
So even though I have hurt this person in my life and it may be justifiable reactions to my past behavior, they still throw an insult at me in a passive aggressive way even though I have changed my life and don’t behave in that manner anymore. It doesn’t matter how well I am doing. It doesn’t matter how far I’ve come, I still get that “dig” at least once every time we are around each other. I get so upset! I get very defensive. I get tired of having to stick up for myself. Yes, I insulted this person last night. My past was being thrown in my face and in a vulgar manner. I kept my cool at first, and then I started yelling and verbally did not behave as a Christian nor as a lady. I asked God to forgive me. Even though what I said back to them was all true, I did say it in a manner unbecoming.
“Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so.” (James 3:10)
I’m not going to blame my behavior as “just being human”. I REALLY want to be able to control my tongue, no matter how terrible I’m being treated. Will I ever perfect this area in my life? I sure hope so. I will just have to keep trying or maybe I just need to choose better friends & end this particular one.
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Hi Michelle, I will share some Scripture with you another time that will explain about our need to put our evil flesh nature to death by The Spirit and we do this as we choose to walk in Love, the Fruit of The Spirit.
Emotions are God given, Jesus got angry but He never held onto bitterness and resentment and that is the sin not the anger, it is only sin when it is hate filled anger. Jesus was also known as a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief and He cried too but He also had deep inner Joy and we can have this and still have a tear in our eye, we don’t have to be Happy Clappy all the time, we need to be real and not wear a mask and that is something that I see is True about you Michelle, and makes you special to me and I’m sure too many others because we can be real too.
I felt very hurt by a woman who I thought was a close friend but she abused me without evidence to support what she claimed, it was only hearsay and her own perception. I knew my feelings were not good towards this woman and I was finding it hard to forgive her so I asked Jesus to help me let go of the hurt and to Love this woman the way He did and as He always answers prayer that is in agreement with His will, I felt peace and wanted to forget what had been said and start again, so I tried to restore the relationship with this person but she rejected my offer of friendship, it hurt again but not like before because I knew I had done what Jesus asks us to do and that is to forgive even those who consider us their enemy and treat us badly.
We can have an enemy but we don’t have to be one.
Christian Love Anne.
1 | Minister Aiken
May 24, 2012 at 12:07 pm
Hi Michelle.
Just checking in on ya. I pray all is well.
Keep believing, keep trusting and watch God. Your best days are ahead.
God bless and do tell the Lord thank you today.
Debra
byhisgrace211
May 24, 2012 at 2:05 pm
Thank you so much for checking in with me! I’ve been so busy I have neglected my blog but I think of you often Debra. You have helped me so much in the past. I actually just got another promotion (two days ago) at work to asst manager. The current asst mgr isn’t working out so I was offered the position and it was approved by the district manger. It hasn’t officially gone through yet in terms of raise and such. The current asst mgr is still there, she doesn’t know her future demise though. I have to be ServSafe Certified (food safety) first and do some more training. I’m doing my best to be confident in myself. I do believe God is playing a BIG part in all this and is answering my prayers.
And you know, even though all these good things are happening, I’ve been so irritable and emotional!!
So I’ve been making myself spend at least 10 mins a day with the Lord and I started a daily reading plan. Every time I spend time in His Word I feel better at the end. But I feel the devil really trying to get to my thoughts and shoot down confidence in myself. I just keep reminding myself that “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”.
So how are YOU my friend?
You are welcome to me email at byhisgrace211@yahoo.com
I love you Debra!
Minister Aiken
May 24, 2012 at 2:37 pm
JUST EMAILED YA.
PRAISE GOD!
LOVE YA MY SISTER.
DEBRA
dschondog
May 24, 2012 at 2:27 pm
This work situation is fabulous. Wonderful news, Michele, for a wonderful girl!
Dawn
byhisgrace211
May 24, 2012 at 2:35 pm
Thank you Dawn! God bless you friend. I actually just typed a quick post giving an update. I feel bad I haven’t spoken to all of you guys recently. 🙂
Minister Aiken
May 24, 2012 at 2:38 pm
AMEN!
PRAISE BE TO GOD! IT IS HE WHO HAS BEGUN A GOOD WORK IN HER AND HE WILL COMPLETE IT UNTIL THE DAY OF JESUS CHRIST.
This is the Lord’s doing and it is indeed marvelous in our eyes. PRAISE GOD!!
I am so happy for her!!
Our God is still on the throne! He is indeed the Sovereign God. No doubt about it!!!
God bless and thanks for stopping by.
Debra
byhisgrace211
May 24, 2012 at 4:02 pm
Thank you Debra!! God bless you my friend. Your enouragement always uplifts me especially when I am questioning myself. Love you sis!
Minister Aiken
May 24, 2012 at 4:04 pm
PRAISE BE TO GOD THE FATHER.
GOD BLESS AND I LOVE YOU TOO MY SISTER.
DEBRA